Is it harder to make friends after you turn 40?

Is it harder for us to make and keep friends after we turn 40? Friendship may or may not be harder after 35; however, the world we live in doesn’t make it happen as organically as it did when we were younger or even 20 years ago. We change and our outlook on life changes right along with us. Young and carefree and now some what settled and set in our ways. So it may take some work to make and maintain friendships. Once being the social butterfly and having people around me all the time and now since getting hurt ~~ I may have 5 friends. Real friends. Friends that "get it" if I just want to be left alone for a spell. They don't get all offended if I say, "I just really need some me time."

I think that it is really important to know what you want from a friend. I want my friend young in the friendship; or older friend to treat me with the same care and respect that I give them. That is the role I expect them to fill.

We all have and need different kinds of friends; like:
mentor
nurturer
activity buddy
confidant
work buddy
old friend; etc.

There are many many types of friends; so don’t let yourself be locked into these examples. However, try to find 5 different types of friends for your inner circle. They really help make your life more complete. The circle is whole and healthy.

No matter how old we get or how much we have changed ~~ Don’t wait for an invitation. Get looking and make friends. Don't settle on friendships that aren’t functioning well. Lonely people deserve good fellowship too. If you love yourself and enjoy your life even when alone; then you can build friendships that are working. Why stress? Others are looking for the same thing ~~ peace and a relaxing communication.

Manage your friendships ~~ Friendships change. Manage them effectively and they will be wonderful for your health, support and wellbeing. People may move in an out of your inner circle because of many different reasons. However, if you deal with them in an effective way the relationship will become win – win. Then everyone is happy. Again 5 good friends is better than having a whole tribe of them and never talking because you are over extended.
Don’t forget; give friendships a chance to bloom. Sometimes it takes more than one contact for a relationship to develop.

Also, communication is very import; most women have exceptional verbal skills; but, listening skills are the hardest to master. Hard to remember that God in all His wisdom gave us 2 ears and 1 mouth. LOL ~~ ask me! I forget that sometimes. Imagine that!!

BRAND NEW BLOG SPOT

Hello who ever comes across one of my ramblings.

This is a brand new blog spot and I feel it is a place where I will come into more contact with making internet friends than some of the other sites I have been on in this past couple years. Myspace? Not for me. Gather? Definetly not a place for me to be. Then my older sister told me about this blogging. She is right; it is having control about who comes into your little space. I like that.

I am just looking for women friends to talk about our daily lives with. I am a home body and the internet is my out. Not interested in being politically correct, won't argue or debate on who Jesus is ~~ I know Him and He knows me. I say Merry Christmas and don't freak if someone else doesn't like it. I hate politics and I cannot stand obama. No arguing there....I just don't even listen to his crap on the television. The sooner he is out of there, the better for us all. Good ridence to stinky rubbish.

I think I can safely say that I have better friends on the web than I do in person. That may of course have something to do with the fact that they’re never likely to just drop by at inconvenient moments nor suddenly ask for a loan. Or ask to move in for a while ~~ just long enough to make me want to yell ~~ "GET OUT!" Most have divorced 2 or 3 times and still have not gotten a clue that "cheating on your spouse" does actually cause a problem.....UUUUUUUUUUHHHUHH!
I have to say that I’ve never really been tempted to do Internet romance and I try to only meet and friend women friends. I am very happily married and have been with Adam for almost 34 years. I have all that I need or want right here; and I’m one of those suspicious types and never convinced that what is displayed is really on the other end of the internet connection. Never could understand that on-line..."do you love me stuff."

I open up easier with people and if they get a bit too much drama queening ~~ I can always say ~~ see ya later.
I must say though that I have met some pretty awesome friends over the internet and some of us even talk on the phone and write letters. I have the gift of gab and I love the art of true and real pen palling ~~ good old snail mailing.

Me? Just looking to stay happy and uplifted in a world that wants to drag a body down. Life is way too short for all that nonsense.